Some Thoughts & Resources For This Wild Moment (3/23/20)
So now here we are. Each of us in our own family units, our own communities, this country, and the world, together in this same wild situation. Reminded every day – every moment, in fact - how inextricably interwoven our cells and well-being and lives as beings on this planet are.
Maybe It Doesn't All Have to Happen *Right* Now
We can't tap into our most essentially creative power or the flow of abundance when we're rushing forward. Our fullest power and potential are only available when we're firmly grounded in this present moment.
Less Resisting, More Resting
The way these human brains of ours are wired, we try to resist pain and discomfort when we anticipate them coming our way anyway. But the more we resist anything that's a natural part of the cycle of life, the more suffering we cause ourselves.
What May Really Be Going On When It Looks Like You're Procrastinating
When we perpetuate the habit of not following through on things that feel important to us or waste precious time and energy saying we're going to do something but never actually doing it, procrastination is most definitely a habit that could use some upgrading.
But sometimes when it looks like you're procrastinating, things might not be quite as black and white as they appear.
The Oh Sh** Questions
When we really do trust the process and lean into earnest inner inquiry with curiosity rather than judgment, we arrive at insights we never could have conjured up with our logical minds alone. The deepest wisdom arises from stillness, not from doing; from being, not from thinking.
A Love Note to Perfectionists (& Some Relief)
The more we strive for perfection, the less worthy we feel. The antidote to the thankless, life-force-depleting, never-ending perfectionism cycle is simple. It's the deep-in-your-bones trust that: You are enough.
Which Blocks Can You Use? (Self-Compassion 101)
It's never too late to start cultivating a new level of kindness toward ourselves. Self-compassion practice is where we can begin.
Keep Your Eyes On Your Own Paper (or Yoga Mat)
Two antidotes to suffering:
1) Keep your eyes on your own paper (or yoga mat). 2) Let yourself let go of things you can't control.
Is Mindfulness Making You Feel More Confused Than Before? (4 Tips to Help)
The reality is, your mind was just as wild before. It's just that you're finally noticing it.
Why "What should I do with my life?" is the Wrong Question to Be Asking
What shifts if you drop the illusion that some perfectly packaged "Here's what you're meant to do with your life" bundle with a bow will arrive at your doorstep and you accept that whatever you're exploring or struggling with right now is your life's purpose?
Four Words That Can Change Your Life in a Heartbeat
All we need to do to get unstuck from a sticky moment - aka a sticky thought - is to: Pause. Step back. Take an objective look at what's actually happening (not in your mind, but in reality). And get curious about what's under the microscope, with no clinging to or pushing away whatever you discover.
The One Word You Should Ditch to Start Enjoying Your Life
Every time you let a should trump a genuine desire, you're telling your big “S” Self — your natural core of love and kindness — to get out of the driver's seat so your little “s” self — your control-loving ego — can take the wheel.
Why You Don't Need Crystal Clarity to Move Toward What You Want
Don't sweat the details at first. They'll clarify as you go. Start with just the ONE thing you know from deep in your being you want - and you see - in your ideal future day. Keep that one thing front and center in your vision; trust it and build on it.
Keep the Channels Open
Once we acknowledge what's really up for us in this moment, we can appropriately address it and clear it through that awareness. We keep the channels clear by staying as honestly and objectively aware as possible of what our energy and emotions are up to in the present moment.
Want More Joy & Clarity? Get Still
In 2009 when I moved from San Diego back "home" to the Bay Area I was sad. In more grief than I'd ever known I could be, in fact. The move took place after the first man I'd ever really opened up to loving and being loved by died in a car accident. And I had no clue what I was going to do next. All I knew was that just "being" was the only right thing in that moment.
How to Make Profound Changes — One Small Shift At a Time
When you stay plugged into your sense of what really feels right for you, when you stay open enough to be willing to try out just this one little shift, you can have those breakthroughs. You don't need to wait for some gigantic shift in outer circumstances to break through your inner barriers.
Don’t Worry About Managing Your Time. Focus on Managing Your Energy. (10 Tips to Help)
But there's an alternative to this stress-inducing, actually counter-productive type of "time management": To tune into your inner energy in a given moment and let it guide you in the most appropriate-for-this-moment action to take next.
You're Not Who You Think You Are Anyway (Lessons From My First Silent Meditation Retreat)
But when we stop taking our "small s self" so seriously, our "capital S Self” reminds us it's been there all along. And the (capital S) Self is constant. It's whole and centered and perfect and at ease, and its wholeness depends not one ounce on concepts or circumstances. It just is.
Balance: The Art of Effortless Action
Our tendency is generally to try to "fix" our way back into balance once we realize we've fallen out (and we of course have to be fortunate/willing enough to have the awareness to notice that we've wandered from center ground to even do that). But balance is actually our natural resting place.
Want to Build Strength? Start Surrendering.
With too little awareness and intention, we stay stuck in the same place. With too much force, we bulldoze right past the present moment. But when you hit it just right, you get to hang in that ease-y space, where it feels like you're being magically supported. You know when you've hit that sweet spot because the effort suddenly doesn't feel like work.