Get Your Catcher's Mitt Ready (Because What You Want Is Already On Its Way)
I spent the vast majority of my life single. And grace and patience were definitely not the names of my "waiting for love" game most of that time.
I wanted love and I wanted it now.
And I believed, like most of us are conditioned to believe, that love was a thing outside myself that I had to earn, deserve, and hunt down.
So I worked and worked at the whole love thing.
And by worked I mean struggled.
Because secretly I feared that my not having been in long-term relationships in the past must mean there was something seriously wrong with me, which meant I could never have the kind of relationship I wanted.
It was a real process to get to the place where I am now, enjoying and appreciating the fulfilling loving relationship I've now been in for almost a decade.
But now that I'm in it, it just feels so natural.
Like yah, of course. This is right. This was always how it was going to unfold.
And hilariously, the intuitive part of me always actually knew that a wonderful man and relationship were coming. I could feel it in my bones.
But that didn't keep me from freaking out for years along the way, trying to force it to come sooner.
And of course it’s natural that we tend to freak out when there's something we want with our whole being but:
a) Aren't sure how to get it.
b) Are scared we might not ever be able to have it.
or c) Don't believe we deserve it.
And when we're operating from those fears, it's so hard to relax and allow the process to unfold.
I experienced a major shift when an intuitive coach once referred to what I was calling the "waiting phase" as my "catcher's mitt phase".
She very matter-of-factly said yes, of course the kind of loving relationship I wanted was possible for me — in fact, she saw that relationship already on its way.
So, she asked me, what could I do right now to prepare my "catcher's mitt" to be ready when that relationship dropped into it.
Starting to believe in the inevitability of the relationship I wanted changed everything. I got to go back to enjoying life and stop worrying and forcing.
I finally decided to relax and trust the process, and soon thereafter met my love.
So, what might shift for you if you were to act as if everything your heart most desires is already on its way?
If you could relax and trust that you're right on track, how would you use this down time to weed your garden and prep the soil for the sweet new things about to blossom?
What happens when you stop waiting and start preparing?
The more you act as if what you want is a sure thing, the more a sure thing it becomes.
Everything juicy your heart desires will likely feel out of reach at first.
But just because you haven't experienced it yet doesn't mean it's out of reach forever. The more attentively you prep your catcher's mitt, the closer your desires will feel...and, by extension, become.
So relax where you can. Trust the process.
And here’s to you catching everything your heart desires and enjoying every bit of it when it arrives.
Lots of Love,